I believe it is time I start writing again. Wow, has it been what feels like forever. I initially stopped writing because the "Relationship" chapter of my Happiness Project began in February, and lets face it, I keep my relationship private. That's my way of protecting my relationship.
Some has changed, but most has not. I changed jobs to a current sales position that I enjoy very much. You learn a lot in sales. Everything else is pretty much the same. However, it IS warmer outside, I have a new car, and my four goldfish are still alive.
There is one thing I've observed over the past few months (again) that I'd like to share with you. A majority of my everyday life is spent working, working out, seeing friends, building my relationship, missing my family, etc. And EVERY tough situation, pickle, or adversity that I see people face, usually has to do with the same thing: Lying. This may be a repeat post, but I urge you to please listen up on this topic. Marriages end, friendships die, relationships break up, you go crazy, you become guilty and insecure, and you are paranoid. Nothing good comes from lying. And the lying I'm talking about does not include telling your friend she doesn't look fat when she may or not admitting to eating the last cookie. I'm talking about serious lying. Lying that breaks hearts, leaves scars, and leaves you in turmoil.
If you have to lie to someone either: a) just don't do it, you'll regret it later. or b) STOP LIVING A LIFE YOU HAVE TO LIE ABOUT. Now, no one is perfect, and everyone has their fair share of lying experience. But I just don't understand it. I don't have any polls or statistics on this, but it just seems like a majority of friendship and relationship problems that you face have everything to do with lying. Why do you want to have so many secrets? Why are you so ashamed? Why do you act upon situations that you have to lie about? Why must you lie to the people you say you love the most? I'm not a judge, or a jury for that matter. What you lie about is entirely up to you. You and I both know that life is much easier when you don't have to lie. So next time you are in a situation that you have to lie about, think twice about the possible outcome if you're caught. And think about how much time you are going to have to spend building up broken trust.
And lastly, if you are a pathological liar, or a frequent liar, who do you think you're fooling? It's not like your surroundings don't catch on to your lies, especially those close to you. You may be caught, and you don't even know it. Your friends and significant other could be trying to piece together your lies and soak in the betrayal you have shown. And now you'll be up all night wondering if you're caught and just don't know it yet.
See, lying sucks. In my opinion, lying is murder to life.
